The Importance of a Family Mission Statement

GPS car navigation can plot routes of travel to a given destination  based on a number of variables.  Some GPS systems are interconnected with sources of traffic information, enabling to automatically account for construction and congestion ahead  when determining the best route.  If a driver misses a turn, the  GPS can quickly correct for the error with an updated route.  Having  a GPS system for your marriage in the shape of a vision statement can do the same thing!

Let’s see what happens to Jennifer and Matt when  they don’t have a GPS for their Marriage:
  • Jennifer:  Hey Matt, where would you like to go to dinner tonight?
  • Matt:   I am not sure what I am in the mood for.  I just know that I am hungry.  What about you?
  • Jennifer:  Well, let’s see where our car will take us?
  • Matt:   You know what happened last time we relied on “our car” to pick the restaurant?
  • Jennifer:  No, I don’t remember, what happened?
  • Matt:   For one thing we got lost, and towed, we hated the food.  For once, why can’t we just plan where we go ahead of time so I can look forward to the meal and ultimately the dessert?

It is difficult to plan for every aspect of marriage.  Sure we may have planned when we want to buy a house or start a family, but in order to be truly effective as a newly married couple, you can create a kind of GPS system called a FAMILY MISSION STATEMENT.

Stephen Covey, in his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families discusses the importance of family mission statements.  The discussion of family mission statements appears in Habit 2 whereby he talks about beginning with the end in mind.  One of the best examples is the concept of the GPS system, mentioned earlier.  Before you leave your destination, input the place where you want to go, and then the best route is programmed for you with minimal obstacles and stress.

Whenever there is an adjustment made, or if you fall of track by making the wrong turn, your GPS will make the adjustments needed to ensure you end up at your destination.

In marriage, creating & living with a clear vision will help you rise above the challenges and obstacles that occur in life.  By creating a family mission statement you are not just creating a relationship contract, but a covenant that can grow and change to reflect the growth and changes in your marriage and family.

In your next assignment, I will provide you with a few questions that will help you design a family mission statement.  As you go through the process as a couple, keep several things in mind:

  1. Both of you must use active listening skills in order to complete the assignment.  Active listening skills involve allowing your spouse to speak openly and without judgement.  By speaking freely during this time of newness will help serve as a big benefit when situations in the marriage get tense.
  2. Acknowledge your partner’s answers and ideas.  This is key to developing and maintaining respect.  By showing that your spouse’s ideas are valued, helps maintain a sense of closeness.
  3. Take your time and write down everything, treating the family mission statement as a working document will allow you time to better define your values and beliefs as a family.

Now take a deep look into our Strive 2 Succeed in Marriage Mission Statement to build your family road successfully.

Looking forward to hear about the results!

Coach Keith

Well, take a look at the above information. Did it work? If you didn’t, then you go back and do it!  Then, leave us a comment, we want to know what you think.

L♥ve you always, and remember Be Brava, Be You!


Coach Keith Dent is a Life Coach who specializes in relationships.  He lives in West Orange, New Jersey.
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