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And, back we are with the results of the analysis you did when you took that nice little worksheet from our past blog with the Key #1 To A Sustainable Marriage:  Do You Know Your Spouse’s Personality? and now we are going to see what all that hard work means!

Understanding your Personality Temperament.

Hopefully you took the personality analysis and you had some insight, not only on your own personality, but your partner’s as well.  As you identify your own individual emotional trait, highlight the strengths that you identify with the most.  Notice each strength also has a corresponding weakness that is pushed to the extreme.  As you look at each trait, you will also get an idea of which traits identify your spouse.

If you or your spouse is a DOER, these are the strengths:

  • Confidence
  • Decisiveness
  • You are Active and Energetic

But some of the weaknesses are:

  • You are Opinionated
  • Impatient
  • Too Demanding of Others

In order to be successful, you would need continual challenges, the freedom to make choices and to have control over most situations.  A person who has a DOER personality can grow by learning to relax more, develop patience and be sensitive to others.  If your spouse happens to be a DOER, you must be direct with that person.

If you or your spouse is an INFLUENCER, these are the strengths:

  • Friendly
  • Enthusiastic
  • Personable

But some of the weaknesses are:

  • You are Overbearing
  • Impulsive
  • Over-Involved in Helping Other

In order to be successful, you would need a friendly atmosphere, the freedom to make choices and to have control over most situations.  A person who has an INFLUENCER personality can grow by learning to follow through on projects, develop self-discipline and be pause before acting.  If your spouse happens to be an INFLUENCER, in order to relate better to them, you must be more enthusiastic.

If you or your spouse is a RELATER, these are the strengths:

  • Patient
  • Self-Controlled
  • Good Listener

But some of the weaknesses are:

  • Indecisiveness
  • Procrastination
  • Resistance to Changes

In order to be successful, you would need secure environment, the opportunity to develop relationships and to be able to maximize your specialized gifts.  A person who has a RELATER personality can grow by learning to take more initiative, developing the ability to adapt to changes, and to be more confrontational.  If your spouse happens to be a RELATER, you can relate better with them if you are friendly.

If you or your spouse is a THINKER, these are the strenghts:

  • Analytical
  • Disciplined
  • Precise

But some of the weaknesses are:

  • You are Rigid
  • Perfectionist
  • Too Detailed

In order to be successful, you would need a stable environment, sufficient time to do a task right and need reassuring feedback.  A person who has a THINKER personality can grow by learning to be more optimistic, developing self-confidence and going outside the comfort zone.  If your spouse happens to be a THINKER, in order to relate better you must be more factual.

Understanding your future spouse’s personality can help reframe how you interpret their behavior in certain situations.  It also helps you to empower who they are instead of trying to change them.  That does not excuse your spouse from unacceptable behavior, but it does provide insight to a positive response.

Finally, based on the understanding of you and your spouse’s personality, you can determine what adjustments both of you would need to make so your communication becomes more versatile.  Versatility is learning how to adjust your natural behavior to better meet the needs of a person or situation.

See you next time!

Coach Keith
Well, take a look at the above information. Did it work? If you didn’t, then you go back and do it! I guarantee this works.  Then, leave us a comment, we want to know what are your thoughts about this!   And Stay Tuned for the continuation on the 5 Keys to Having a Sustainable Marriage.

Be Brava, Be You!

Silvia

Coach Keith Dent is a Life Coach who specializes in relationships.  He lives in West Orange, New Jersey.
You can find more about him and his amazing programs at http://facebook.com/strivetosucceed.dent.
You can read his blog at strivetwosucceed.wordpress.com
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